How do I handle a friend who always cancels plans last minute?
I have a friend who agrees to plans and then cancels at the last minute almost every time, usually with a flimsy excuse. It's frustrating and feels disrespectful of my time. Should I confront them about it? Just stop making plans with them? Is this a friendship worth keeping?
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The cultural context matters a lot here. What's considered normal or acceptable varies enormously between different regions, generations, and social groups. There's no universal standard on this.
There's a difference between something being rude and something just being different from what you're used to. I try to ask myself that whenever I get annoyed by how other people do things. Usually it's just different, not wrong.
Great question. I've thought about this a lot and honestly I think both sides have valid points. The key is finding a balance that works for your life rather than following what everyone else does.
Talk to people who actually disagree with you instead of just reading things that confirm what you already believe. That's the only way I ever change my mind about anything. It's uncomfortable but worth it.
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